it really isn’t.
Your Heart is actually OPENING, like a door,
Inviting you to take a peak inside of your own heart.
If you want to
FEEL BETTER...
Ask the Right Question:
"What do
YOU
really want?"
LOOK WITHIN for the Answer.
What is it??
You really don’t want to lose this person…
this should motivate you to take action.
It's important to make sure YOUR ACTIONS are actually in alignment with:
What YOU really want.
An old friend is going through a Divorce right now.
She lives far away, which helped me see her situation much more objectively.
I love my friend. I want her to be happy.
The advice I gave to her, I share with everyone below:
_________________________________________
My Friend,
I've known you a LONG TIME...
through quite a few break-ups, right?
Just by seeing your facebook posts...
I NOTICE a HUGE DIFFERENCE in YOU!
Our Individual Ability to Love another GROWS as we ourselves grow.
It's obvious to me that you care much more deeply for this man, than any of the others I've known.
I'm sorry your heart is hurting...
it does that when you are losing someone you love a lot.
If it didn't hurt = you didn't care.
Knowing this was comforting to me while I was losing a man I loved.
He was acting out towards me...
People do that When THEY ARE HURTING.
His Angry Actions against me really meant:
he was hurting too = he loved me too.
When we STOP DEFENDING ourselves,
OPEN our Hearts more
and
REACH for those we truly wish to keep...
sometimes they Notice the Change
AND
Give in to Their Hope for the same.
Sometimes things can be mended...
but IT TAKES TWO to mend it.
AFTER REACHING...
HOLD HOPE that if your words/actions don't sink in right away...
They will as the dust settles...
Let it settle awhile.
There's a trick to this!
Lovingly Hold Onto Your Hope and Your Willingness to work it out...
No Matter What He Says or Does...
Hold On to it...
Hold and Wait...
Wait until after the dust settles.
That way...
When HE REALIZES the TRUTH...
Realizes that YOU really do LOVE HIM TOO...
Your arms are still ready to open...
to accept his hopeful reach for you.
Why OPEN YOURSELF UP like that???
Losing someone you love HURTS ALOT right now.
It continues hurting when you Give Up on Love too easily.
If something is valuable to you...
shouldn't you at least attempt to preserve it?
You are a Soldier...
If America was invaded, what would we do?
a.) Get angry, give up and run the other way.
b.) Cherish What We Have Here...
Stand Firm and FIGHT to KEEP IT!
I know you served in the war...
I already know you'd do WHATEVER IT TAKES to KEEP IT!
Why would you surrender the GREAT LOVE you have without a great fight?
Opening up is the only way to know for sure that
YOU DID EVERYTHING you possibly could to save the relationship.
If it works - GREAT!
If not - It's STILL GREAT!
YOUR HEART Replaces the Hurt you currently feel with a better feeling...
a deep sense of satisfaction and inner peace.
You will feel satisfied knowing:
YOU didn't give up WITHOUT A FIGHT,
YOU didn't surrender,
YOU TRULY LOVED the best you could,
YOU did EVERYTHING you could to Save the Marriage
and
YOU continued LOVING HIM UNCONDITIONALLY (even when it wasn't easy)
KARMA will bring that kind of Love back into your life.
Sometimes Karma uses the "delivery person" you wanted it to be,
sometimes Karma sends someone else to deliver...
but either way, there is ONE THING that is certain!
The LOVE, FORGIVENESS & EFFORT
You SEND into the circle RIGHT NOW...
Grows as it moves through the circle
and
Your Delivery is on it's way!
If your marriage does end...
What kind of LOVE do you want for the next?
Someone who will LOVE YOU enough to FIGHT TO KEEP YOU?
Someone who will work with you, for better or worse, making sure
that your relationship is a HAPPY ONE?
"Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not." ~ The Lorax, Dr. Suess
Your Heart is NOT Breaking...
You are LEARNING...
Learning what you NEED to have More LOVE!
*** This Blog was Originally Posted on March 3, 2012 ***
written by: Jennifer Kruse, LMT CRMT
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