Best Life Lessons Learned from Movies by: Jennifer Kruse, LMT CRMT Fargo Holistic Healing Expert
Movies with unhappy endings never seem to sit right with us, everything about it just feels all wrong. Connecting with the main characters in a movie takes us on a short journey, experiencing a roller coaster of emotions as we share their triumphs, struggles, hardships and chaos.
After watching a movie with an unhappy ending, I've often said, "If I knew that it ended that way, I wouldn't have put myself through all that."
Understanding why most people agree reveals valuable real life lessons.
The movie takes our emotions on a roller coaster ride of highs and lows; we get some sort of a rush inside from experiencing the extremes of emotion so close together.
In a movie, all the worst possible things could happen and we will still love it as long as the movie has a happy ending.
Watching a movie is kind of like watching someone else's life up close and personal, we start caring about the main character and what happens to him. We always have that expectation that everything will work out in the end. Even if the main character gives up, stops trying and stops fighting to survive... we know something will happen to save the day, it has to because stories are like real life, they are not supposed to end badly.
The truth is that there are situations in life which cannot get better unless we keep going, we must continue striving to get to that better place or we won't get there.
In those situations, everyone watching is going through the roller coaster with us. If we don't fight to survive, to keep going, if we don't even try to make life better for ourselves, we must remember that it isn't just self we are letting down. Everyone who is watching is going through all of it with us, if we hurt, they are hurting too.
After a while, everyone figures out if we aren't going after it with focused determination and that means there is no end to this roller coasters bottom loop. Knowing that, they feel powerless to do anything about it, they feel sad, angry and frustrated because they care.
The only choice they have at that point is to give up their happiness to ride your coaster to the bottom or save self by getting off the coaster before it crashes at the bottom.
It's never fun watching a movie with an unhappy ending, even worse if it's a true story happening live and right in front of you. If someone has obviously given up on life, can we really blame anyone who looks away? Most of us already say, "If I would have known it ended badly, I wouldn't have put myself through all of that."
If you are going through a long difficult period in your life, know that those who have stayed in your life the longest have been there because they have an expectation that everything will work out in the end. Now you know that they expect you to keep going until you get there.
How will it end? The choice is yours.